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We are an independent, self-supporting, science and psychology based divorce support group, open to all beliefs (or non-beliefs).  We have been meeting every Tuesday night in Charlotte, in one form or another, at one location or another, for well over 25 years!  Since Covid began in March 2020 we moved to weekly Zoom meetings and here we will remain going forward.  We’re now reaching people all over America + Canada!  We help people deal with the heartache, sadness and despair (and eventual recovery from) the ending of a primary love relationship.  Deep emotional pain is common for most people going through separation and divorce.  People who have not personally gone through this process cannot truly comprehend the high levels of trauma, grief, stress, anger and pain involved.  Everyone in our group has been through it and does understand.  You are NOT alone!  We want to help you survive this “life crisis”, break from the past, learn from it, heal yourself and rebuild your life.

Our group is very diverse!  Generally including equal numbers of men and women, all races and beliefs,  ranging in age from 20’s up to late 70’s, from all backgrounds and economic conditions.  Length of previous relationships vary anywhere from several years up to 40+ years (with an average of 20+ years).  Some people come to us recently separated within the last 30 days, or 1 to 3 years separated / divorced, all the way up to 10+ years after divorce.  The long-term members help our newer members by sharing what they’ve gone through and learned, what has worked and what hasn’t, along with providing encouragement and hope for the future.

Our meetings are conducted by facilitators that have personally survived divorce and have been doing this work for 15+ years.  Each meeting usually begins with discussion of an article related to separation, divorce, dating, etc. that is sent out in a broadcast email to everyone in our group who has submitted their email address to us.  We also allow for some “open discussion” time during each meeting.  In addition, one meeting per month we conduct a group discussion using a book entitled “Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends” (written by Bruce Fisher).  This book is considered one of the best resources available to help with rebuilding your life, your sanity, your relationships and your future after separation and divorce.

I believe we learn as much from each other sharing our experiences as we do from the book or articles.  As renowned psychologist John Bradshaw said “…we can’t effectively grieve alone…” which is why a support group such as ours is so important to the healing process.  In our group discussions we tackle anything and everything related to separation and divorce, including; emotional issues, fear, trust issues, loneliness, sexual issues, dating again and children related issues during divorce.

We believe strongly in doing the PERSONAL GROWTH WORK necessary to become an emotionally whole and healthy individual.  The idea is to let go of “needing” someone else to validate you.  You ARE already all you NEED.  It’s part of the normal human condition to “want” to share your life with another person.  But it becomes a problem when we are “needy” for this, as in trying to “replace” our lost love with a new person.  We encourage people to fully grieve their lost love and recover themselves emotionally before starting a new relationship.  It is much healthier to “desire” a partner to share your life with as opposed to “needing” a partner to validate and support you.  Approximately a third of our members have been divorced twice (or more) and learned this the hard way.

We hope you will connect on Zoom and join us for a Tuesday night meeting!

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Use this link to purchase a ticket to a weekly, Tuesday night meeting:

https://www.tickettailor.com/events/sdrgroup

We utilize front-end ticketing software for our Tuesday night meetings.  You’ll need to use the link above to purchase a ticket in advance for each weekly meeting.  It will then send you an email with the unique code to get into that week’s meeting.  There will always be several future weeks available for advance purchase – but please ensure that you only purchase the exact nights you plan to attend – and save each confirmation email you receive as each one will only work for the specific week purchased.  The amount going to SDR is $5 per week – but we unfortunately have to add one dollar to that to cover the system costs and credit card costs.  So the final cost to you will be $6 per week using this system.  There are other options available that we will share with you after you begin participating in our weekly meetings.
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Benefits / Purposes / Goals of our Separation & Divorce Recovery Support Group:

* To openly and honestly share our feelings, pain, losses, fears, etc. out loud with others who are going through the same thing.

* To be heard, accepted, supported and validated by others without judgment.

* To grieve our losses together (as psychologist John Bradshaw said we can’t grieve alone).

* To receive encouragement from others who understand what we’re going through.

* To gain wisdom and inspiration by listening to other people’s experiences.  To realize we are NOT alone in the misery we’re going through.  Others have been through it, survived and eventually prospered.

* To gain a sense of empowerment, control and hope for ourselves and our future.

* To ask questions and receive advice from others who are further along in their healing journey – learning new ways to cope and recover from heartache.

* Divorce can be a very isolating experience.  Group participation can help us form new connections with people.  A way to step back out in the world, to combat our loneliness and feel human again.
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Please see our website for more details:   www.separationdivorcerecovery.com

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SDR Tuesday Night Meeting Schedule:
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> Meeting opens at 7:00 pm

> Meeting INTRODUCTIONS from 7:05 pm to 7:20 pm, limited ONLY to:
* Name
* How long you were married
* How long separated or divorced
* How long have you been in our group (or are you new tonight?)

> 7:20 pm to 7:50 pm is OPEN DISCUSSION Time for individual “life crisis” issues and questions.

> 7:50 pm begins content reading and discussion.

> 9:30 pm HARD STOP to end the meeting.
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