Curious Souls Collective-Limitless Minds London

Identifying Projection, Releasing Toxic Shame | Integrating The Shadow

To be able to fully accept ourselves we need to accept our shadow, integrate our shame bound feelings, needs and wants.

About this Event

Those scary, embarrassed, scared and painful parts of yourself that you're trying so hard to suppress, rationalise, talk yourself out of, push down or "correct" - those parts are your shadow.

Shadow represents any part of us that we’ve been shamed out of, deemed unworthy or rejected. These parts of us carry huge amounts of energy that we will either act in or project out onto others.

We all think that our shadow is the worst, that other peoples' shadows don't even compare to what we’re trying to suppress, we develop the belief that we're the only weirdos and we’re broken. Damaged goods.

We can’t run away or hide from our shadow. Repetition compulsion says, what we don’t heal we will either reenact on others or find people reenact on us. Such experiences create unknown knowns and cognitive dissonance. Freud observed that patients did not remember anything that they had repressed, instead they acted it out.

If we don’t become conscious of and reintegrate our shadow we will project it onto others or find new people to reenact past traumas on us.

To be able to fully accept ourselves we need to accept our shadow, integrate our shame bound feelings, needs and wants. Growing up in dysfunctional families can cause splitting and make us feel ashamed.

Disclaimer- This workshop is intended for educational
and or entertainment purposes only, it is not intended to diagnose,
treat or cure any medical condition. Nothing discussed on this workshop should be construed as medical advice.

when:

• We need help
• Feel angry
• Assertive
• Sad
• Fearful,
• Sexual
• Happy
• Embarrassed
• Weak

The list is endless. We become cut off from vital parts of ourselves and these disowned parts become sub personalities, we can identify them through our projections. We need to accept these parts to become whole, no one is broken.

At some point in our childhood, something related to these rejected or projected traits severed the connection with the primary object (parent). It could be punishment, rejection, withdrawal of love, shaming, etc. Being disconnected from our parents is dangerous for a child so in order to remain connected (to receive love, milk, food, warmth, protection) children disconnect from the "dangerous traits".

To stop the inner child experiencing the feelings of fear and abandonment we will try to suppress these feelings through emotional eating or substances, many often project these traits onto others even their own kids.

Mark Stubbles, a hypnotherapist, CBT practitioner, life coach, Master NLP & Mindfulness practitioner who specialises in helping anxiety and inner child healing will discuss the shadow, splitting and projection in detail. After growing up in a dysfunctional family Mark struggled with CPTSD, anxiety, dissociation, emotional flashbacks and emotional regulation. He will take attendees through exercises to reintegrate these projected parts of themselves and hold a hypnosis session to end.

This workshop is for you if you:

• Suffer with uneasy feelings
• Suffer with negative self talk.
• Suffer with poor self esteem.
• Suffer with a poor self image.
• You would like to be a better parent.
• Your partner has accused you of being abusive.
• You suffer with anxiety.
• You use sex, drugs or food to numb your emotions.
• You have anger issues.
• You try to avoid your feelings.
• You have no confidence.
• You feel ashamed of your sexuality.
• You struggle to form relationships.
• You feel inadequate/inferior.
• You worry how other people perceive you.

-Do you constantly find yourself saying "yes" when you desperately want to say "no"?
- Are you caught in a cycle of people-pleasing that leaves you feeling drained and resentful?
- Do your relationships often feel one-sided or even dysfunctional?

If you're ready to break free from these patterns and step into a life of healthy boundaries, self-respect, and fulfilling connections, then join us for this powerful and transformative workshop led by Mark Stubbles, a highly experienced Hypnotherapist, CBT Practitioner, Life Coach, and Master NLP & Mindfulness Practitioner.

Mark understands these struggles firsthand. Having navigated his own journey through the aftermath of a dysfunctional family, including CPTSD, anxiety, and emotional challenges, he brings a unique blend of professional expertise and personal empathy to guide you towards healing and empowerment.

Imagine finally being able to:

• Say "no" with confidence and without guilt.
• Build relationships based on mutual respect and healthy boundaries.
• Understand the root causes of your people-pleasing tendencies.
• Heal the inner child wounds that may be driving your codependent behaviors.
• Identify and live in alignment with your core values.
• Attract healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
• Develop a stronger sense of self-worth and confidence.

In this insightful 90-minute workshop, Mark will guide you through:

• Uncovering the "Why": Explore the underlying causes of people-pleasing and codependency, understanding how these patterns develop.
• Breaking the Cycle: Learn practical strategies to identify and challenge your inability to say "no."
• Boundary Brilliance: Discover concrete techniques for setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in all areas of your life.
• Inner Child Healing: Understand how nurturing your inner child can pave the way for functional and fulfilling adult relationships.
• Your North Star: Learn a powerful process to identify your core values and make choices aligned with your authentic self.
• The Science of Connection (and Disconnection): Gain insights into the dynamics of dysfunctional relationships and how to break free.
• Understanding Your Patterns: Explore how past family roles might be keeping you stuck in codependent behaviors.
• Healing and Growth: Learn about CPTSD, enmeshment trauma, reenactment, projection, and other key concepts on the path to healing.

What You'll Gain:

• Clear understanding of people-pleasing and codependency.
• Practical tools and techniques to set healthy boundaries.
• Strategies for healing inner child wounds.
• A clear understanding of your core values.
• Insights into the "attraction of deprivation" and why you might fall for the wrong people.
• Knowledge of how family dynamics impact relationship patterns.
• An introduction to CPTSD, enmeshment trauma, and related concepts.
• A powerful hypnosis session to support integration and positive change.
• A recording of the workshop to revisit the valuable insights at your own pace.

This workshop is for you if you identify with any of the following:

• Struggling with codependency.
• Finding yourself in a repeating cycle of dysfunctional relationships.
• Being a chronic people-pleaser.
• Feeling unable to say "no" to requests, even when it harms you.
• Not knowing how to establish healthy boundaries.
• Feeling like others often take advantage of your kindness.
• Desiring to be a more present and effective parent.
• Having a partner who has described your behavior as controlling or abusive.
• Repeatedly attracting partners who are emotionally unavailable or abusive.
• Using substances (sex, drugs, food) to numb difficult emotions.
• Experiencing anger issues or difficulty managing your emotions.
• Having a tendency to avoid your feelings.
• Lacking self-confidence and self-esteem.
• Feeling frustrated when others don't follow your advice.
• Being told that you try to help too much.
• Struggling to prioritize your own needs.
• Losing your sense of self within relationships.

Don't let people-pleasing and codependency continue to dictate your life and relationships. Make this small but invaluable investment in yourself and take the first step towards a more empowered and fulfilling future.
Secure Your Spot Today!

Led by: Mark Stubbles Hypnotherapist, Course Creator, Author, CBT & NLP Practitioner

What Attendees Will Receive:

• Live, impactful 90-minute workshop with Mark Stubbles.
• Downloadable workbooks.
• Access to the workshop recording.

Take control of your life and relationships. Book your spot today!

Feel free to ask me any questions at soniapeterson1986@gmail.com

Best wishes

Sonia, Mark