It’s no secret breakups are hard. Navigating the aftermath of a relationship can bring up feelings of helplessness and loneliness. But what if there was a way to approach a breakup as an opportunity? Discover the secret to moving on with optimism in this Meetup Live recording.
Watch Emmi Fortin, breakup coach and organizer of the Breakup and Relationship Support and Connection Group, to hear how to heal from heartbreak. During this recording, you will learn three ways to shape your mindset after a breakup that will help you assess your situation, move forward, and find the right support to keep your head held high.
Main Takeaways:
Identifying a situationship
- In a relationship, both partners have agreed to enter into a committed partnership as a team. They have committed to working through challenges together and supporting each other as individuals. However, when you’re in a situationship, the nature of the relationship is undefined. So, how does one transition from simply meeting someone to desiring a committed relationship but ending up in a situationship? Like any major investment in life (whether it’s an investment of time, money, or energy) you must consider whether going forward truly aligns with your desires and values. If you’re unsure what you’re getting into, you should assess whether the deal is worth it.
3 ways to gain clarity during a breakup
- A breakup is a good time to reflect and do some introspection. To facilitate reflection during this crucial time, I created something that I call my R.E.D process:
- Restore the connection with yourself: your intuition, your values, and the things that are going to bring you clarity.
- Elevate yourself. This is when you gain confidence. Focus your energy on yourself and how you can learn about yourself from this experience. What are your blind spots? What are your patterns? What do you want to elevate in yourself? Are there skills or talents that you want to learn? This is going to give you confidence.
- Dare to step outside your comfort zone. Be a little uncomfortable in exchange for something that’s actually going to bring you peace in the long run.
Top Q&A Questions and Resources:
- How can I continue to remind myself to be grateful for the years with my ex and accept that they were a reason and a season in my life?
- Acceptance is key when facing disappointments or unmet expectations. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, acknowledge those thoughts without judgment. Find healthy ways to process them, such as through movement or journaling. Redirect your focus towards your vision and goals, as they are what truly matter.
- How do I get past the fear that I should have done something different to prevent the breakup?
- Living in the past and ruminating over what could have been is a common struggle. While it’s logical to understand that we can’t change the past, it can be challenging to break free from those thoughts. One helpful technique is to consciously bring yourself back to the present moment whenever those thoughts arise. Remind yourself of the reality of the current situation, acknowledging that you are no longer together.
Resources:
- Website & free mini guide
- Watch the cinematic book trailer and listen to the first two chapters of Emmi’s spicy memoir, Who Is Your Red Dress? One Woman’s Quest to Break Up with a Love Addiction, here
- Breakup and Relationship Support and Connection Meetup Group
- Tiktok
Last modified on June 27, 2023
